The Power Of Pink
I can tell you how passionate I feel about therapy and how it is truly a life changing experience, but I’m not going to. Instead, I am going to share with you an experience I had providing therapy to a 12-year-old boy…
When I was earning my clinical hours for state licensure, I worked in a residential facility with boys roughly between the ages of 9-12 years old. Despite the fact that I was working strictly with boys, my office oozed the color pink. I did this because I wanted my office to represent who I was based on my personality. I liked the bright, bold color pink had to offer. Pink is different and not everyone accepts the color, which is representative of life. I like pink and I was proud of the power it gave me to stand out from the crowd. Let’s be clear, pink continues to be my favorite color.
One of my clients at the time was a victim of sexual assault by a caretaker. The only way this child was going to be placed into foster care was by addressing and acknowledging his history of abuse. As time went on and we formed a healthy therapeutic relationship, he began to state proudly that his favorite color was pink. He even went as far as sporting a pink backpack because it was “our” favorite color. He didn’t care what anyone thought of it. He was proud of his new favorite color.
The day finally came where he quietly admitted that his caretaker had abused him, and the abuse was quite extensive. His ability to open up about the experience was HUGE! Yet, despite being incredibly proud of him, I had a pain in the pit of my stomach. I had to disclose the information to his caseworker and he would have to go to the Child Advocacy Center and tell his story. He had been through the process before but wasn’t forthcoming with any information. At the time, he didn’t know his interview would determine if his caretaker faced jail time. I had to do everything to empower him and support him through the process.
It was a Friday and I wore pink pants and pink socks and I painted my nails pink. I went down to his room and asked to speak to him. He said, “Cindy, it’s Friday! We don’t meet on Fridays!” I told him what we had to do. To my surprise, he said, “Okay.” Before we left, I gave him a pink Koosh Ball and explained the Power of Pink. I told him whenever he was nervous, all he had to do was squeeze the ball and the Power of Pink would give him strength.
We got to the Child Advocacy Center and he was taken back to the interview room. I whispered in his ear, “You have the Power of Pink” …and off he went. Once he was in the room, I was taken to the adjacent room behind the one-way mirror so I could watch and listen to the interview. The interview began, and he was slow to warm up. He began batting the ball back and forth and squeezed it several times, and then he let it all out. For the first time ever, he went into great detail to describe the abuse he had suffered. I learned about details he hadn’t even shared in therapy. I was blown away by his courage. As soon as we were reunited, he shouted with great enthusiasm, “Cindy! I did it! I did it! I told them everything because I have the Power of Pink!”
Now, obviously, this story is about much more than a color. For this child, the “Power of Pink” translated into the ability to move forward with a greater sense of peace and empowerment. Without therapy, this kid might not have found the strength or received the support and encouragement he needed to address his past and change his future. Pink had so much power because I chose to give it power. The color pink was my client’s way of connecting with me and my way of connecting with him. By connecting over pink, I was able to give my client strength without being by his side.
One of my goals as a therapist is to inspire and embolden change. Our past can hold us back or we can use it to propel us toward a healthy future of growth, strength, and courage.
If your past is holding you back or causing you pain, know that there is hope. Therapy can provide you with the support and the resources you need to help you move forward. I am extremely passionate about what I do, and I sincerely want to help you on that journey.
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